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Ushered Into A New Grace

posted Apr 7, 2016, 5:13 PM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated Apr 7, 2016, 5:13 PM ]
You might wonder, what does graying hair have to do with deserving love or deserving life? Everything.  What started out as simply a desire to grow out my dyed hair and embrace my graying roots has walked me into an ageless discovery.  

I feel like I opened a door and am following the yellow bricked road to living well.  Along the way, I am coming upon websites, images of agelessness that resonate, talk show interviews where women talk about advances in self-care, books written by women for women like Cameron Diaz's The Longevity Book and Ageless Goddess herself, Dr. Christiane Northup's Goddesses Never Age.

Speaking of Christiane, I came upon her blog about "You're Never Too Old To Find Love."   She, like many women past a certain age, wrestled with the notion that she was too old. Perhaps she has read or heard the derogatory stats that harangue us women.  The stats that make many a confident, creative, powerful woman shrink into desperation and denial, stuck in an emotional stupor over a man who talks just enough to keep her holding on but continues to underwhelm.  Stats that convince us we have to settle for what we don't want.

Like Christiane, we can't wait for a man to show up to live our lives.  The opposite is also true. We can't stop living our lives because a man shows up.  If the man does not support what brings you joy, there should be no unreasonably high concessions.  You shouldn't downplay what makes you feel alive because he minimizes its value.  

I heard Rachel Ray say of her husband, "Loving him is as easy as breathing."  Prior to hearing that, I had never even conceived of it.  Not when it involved a man, anyway.  Holding that candle of hope in my heart, I had a higher expectation for my life.  And I feel that candle has been lit once again.  This time, it's being ushered into a new grace.  Oh, and by the way, loving my husband is as easy as breathing.