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The Sound of Rebuilding

posted May 30, 2013, 6:19 AM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated May 30, 2013, 6:19 AM ]
Good morning!  Today's blog is inspired by a conversation I had with a coaching client.  She was feeling drained and unmotivated and was struggling to get back into the winning mindset she had worked so hard to claim.  "I feel like I lost my sound," she lamented.  She was experiencing something that I had too and many of us do. I wrote about it in my book, The Sound of My Life, Chapter Five.  Ironically, my Monday conference call with readers earlier this week focused on that very chapter.  I love how life works.  This was not a coincidence.
To her lament, I gave her what I wish someone had given me when I reached that emotional place where you have worked hard and find yourself at that midpoint.  I call it that in-between place.  You know, that lull where you're not where you were but you haven't reached your there yet.  So many people get lost at that place.  I told her that she wasn't back at square one.  Not at all.  Quite the contrary.   
We explored what had happened in her recent past and there were some great nuggets that I'd like to share with you:
First, her routine was interrupted by life, family and responsibilities that all came at her at once.  This was familiar and before she knew it she had fallen into old patterns of overextending herself.  Rather than setting some boundaries for herself in anticipation, she got absorbed in that energy and at the end of the day, she was too tired to devote time to her dream.  This repeated itself without her being aware that it was slow-walking her to her unmotivated state.
Secondly, she needed to surround herself with likeminded people.  She was becoming more aware of gatherings where she felt out of place.  Conversations that she no longer wanted to be a part of.  Mindsets of folks that she no longer had.  Rather than despair, Life was summoning her to broaden her circle.
Lastly, she needed to know that she didn't have to impress others, namely me.  She felt she had to have it all together at our sessions.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  As I said to her, "if you had it all together, you wouldn't need a coach, right?"  No shame.  No guilt.  No denial.  No avoidance.  Contained in everything are nuggets that, when held to the light, reveal keys to growth and lessons to learn.  In her case, her nuggets revealed how much she had evolved.  And rather than slipping back into old habits that now no longer fit or struggling to resuscitate her old motivation, she had the opportunity to embrace the new awareness that life was presenting and the new, more matured motivation that comes with that.  What a cause for celebration! 
It feels strange and strained when you come to that plateau in your journey regardless to what brought you there.  Sometimes it's simply that the Energizer Bunny's battery runs down and you're forced to a relaxed state of reflection.  Much like going from the Honeymoon stage of a relationship to really seeing the other person for who they are, Life beckons us to a matured state of owning our lives.  This is very good.  It's not speed that is key, it's surrender.  We are co-creators with the Universe in rebuilding our environment to make it a home. 
If you'd like to talk more about your plateau-like state, email me.  Had I had a coach during my lull, I wouldn't have sabotaged my success.  Read about it.  Check out my new book, The Sound of My Life. Chapter Five tells you all about it.