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posted May 22, 2015, 12:06 PM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated May 22, 2015, 12:20 PM ]
These past couple of days, I received a call from two different women.  One has been talking with a fella for some weeks now. The other was on a business trip and spent time with an attractive guy while there.  Despite their very different circumstances and experiences, both called with similar concerns.  The concern of one was whether the man was legit or not.  "After all," the woman reasoned, "I've been the one asking questions in an effort to get to know him better.  He hasn't asked me any questions about me."  The second woman admitted that as she reflected on her enjoyable time with the man, she had not even considered whether he was married or not.  With both, I could feel their anxiety level rise.    

To clarify, it wasn't that the womens' concerns weren't valid.  They were.  What was of concern was that they had already shifted from being open and willing to analytical and suspicious.  What happened?  I had to intervene lest these beautiful deserving ladies cheat themselves and send their overanalytical counterfeits out on their behalf.  

I've done it.  You've done it.  We've all done it.  The guy says something.  We hear something.  It reminds us of something. Our breath becomes shallow.  We start to sweat.  Our heart begins to race.  And we do a complete turnaround, abandoning something over nothing.  Sadly, many a good man has been prematurely dismissed because of it.

I've pondered this in today's Video Blog: Overanalyzing In Relationships.

YouTube Video

Love is knocking but we've got to stop sending our hyperanalytical representative to the door.