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Happiness is my true nature

posted Aug 11, 2014, 7:52 AM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated Aug 11, 2014, 8:24 AM ]

Today marks my first in a 21-day journey of meditation with Oprah and Deepak.  Perhaps all that I have been doing has been to prepare me for this time.  Today, I am reminded of my vision.  It's simple.  My vision is (1) to wake up every morning excited about my day, (2) to live a meaningful and fulfilling life, (3) to live my life on my terms and last but not least (4) to have the revenues to support all the above.

A dear coach and sister friend of mine, Tracy McNeil wrote in her book, The Book of Purpose: The You Testament, that your purpose is core.  It is the reason why you were created.  It's your mission that changes.   Sometimes our purpose can take a back seat as we get so focused on the mission.  It's so easy.  It's like going into the ocean to play but looking up bewildered that your towel and chair are far to the other end.  You didn't even realize that the current had taken you down the shoreline.
Purpose is always teaching me something new and using my own life as the school.   

I see now that learning to meditate and my 7-day healthy living challenge were means to a purposeful end.  I needed to unplug and recalibrate my mission.  I had gotten so caught up in doing my mission that I had lost sight of why I was doing it.  When that happens, you can easily get caught up in a familiar momentum of chasing instead of being. 

The thrill of the chase was something that I associated with men.  You know that "men are hunters" thing.  It's not catching the deer, it's the thrill of chasing him that a man delights in.  Somehow, I think our society has taken on that persona or maybe, it's just me.  A chaser is one who runs after something that it thinks will bring it happiness only to find that once he has it, he needs something else to chase.  When I look at my energy after my book launch, I see how there was an inclination to chase something else.  I also now see with a new clarity how it was working against my vision. 

Sure, we are grateful in the beginning.  We have a feeling of accomplishment.  But then that unsettled feeling creeps up.  Rather than enjoy what we have accomplished, we seek a new something.  What we once were so grateful for, we now take for granted.  How many of us tell ourselves that the key to happiness is this or that only to find that the joy we feel only last for a moment?  My closet is full of clothes that are a testament to that very thing.       

Happiness can't remain where there is no gratitude.  Somehow, I get it in a way that I didn't before.  Our happiness is divinely linked to a sustained connection with gratitude.  What this says to me is if I can abide in a state of gratitude, I will have sustained joy.  I've thought about it and am even thinking about it more deeply as I listen to Deepak Chopra's Day 1 meditation: Happiness is my true nature.  We only chase what we feel we don't have.  When it's a part of my nature, however, I need only to look inward. 

Today, I pause to look inward.  I pause to reflect on all the blessings that were once prayers.  Things I asked God for--more like begged God for.  I reflect on the puzzling ailments that a prescription alone couldn't resolve.  The stabbing pain.  The smoldering pain.  The agonizing pain of this or that: my hands, my feet, my lower back.  He opened my eyes to traditional medicine and alternative medicine and how many of those ailments were fixable.  I reflect on the loneliness that was so deep that it hurt to breathe.  Jehovah Jireh, my Provider, rallied resources to my aid.  He taught me how to stop cheating myself of great relationships.  And now I happily enjoy the days leading up to my wedding.

Just 1 1/2 years ago, I asked God to help me to live.  I had done what I thought was right only to find out it was oh so wrong.  Out of that, my vision was born.  He awakened me to the gifts and talents he had given me and, how, through entrepreneurship, I could attain the revenues.  The part I somehow missed was that in order to get up every morning excited about my day, in order to have meaning to my life, in order to live my life on my terms, I needed gratitude.   

Gratitude comes from not just being thankful for all that you have been given.  I think what lies at its core is knowing that you have something worth giving.  You have something valuable to offer the world.  So, instead of looking at work as the thrill of the chase or for my survival, it is my offering.  It is my faith in action. 

So Day 1 of my 21-day meditation with Oprah and Deepak begins with service.  "How may I serve Something Greater today?," my faith-consciousness asks.  To awaken with joy is knowing that everything I do today is an opportunity to serve.  Whether it's serving up a genuine smile to someone at the supermarket, rendering quality services to my clients or publishing this blog, I know that I have something valuable to offer this world all day every day.  For this, I am grateful.  In this, I am happy!