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Enough of This

posted Mar 1, 2016, 4:20 PM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated Mar 1, 2016, 4:53 PM ]

I remember when I said, "Enough of this!"  I was in a relationship that had run its course and I could no longer tell myself otherwise.  Up until that time, despite my complaints, I was hopeful.  Hopeful that if I prayed enough, explained how much his actions or inaction hurt me one more time, tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, was more grateful for his efforts, assumed my part or assumed some part of responsibility that there was a chance at redemption.  

While hope is a good thing, it is not an excuse for denial.  Denial that your needs are getting met.  And we don't just mean your need for a man who drives a certain kind of car, or a man with ambition, or a man who pays for the date; but something that runs more deeply.  The need to be seen, to be a consideration.  The need to be heard, to feel that he didn't merely stop talking but that he truly heard the depth and vulnerability behind what you said.  No matter how great his gifts are or even the size of the diamond on your finger, they are of little consolation when matters of your heart keep going unanswered.

As we march towards the March 2016 Enough Virtual Workshop, let's put denial where it belongs--outside.  Enough of it.  And let's see it for what it is.   

Remember, Celebrate A Single Sweetheart nominees and participants get to attend for free.  Otherwise, the session is $80, still a pretty sweet price!

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