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Celebrate A Single Sweetheart This Valentine Day

posted Feb 7, 2016, 9:30 AM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated Feb 7, 2016, 9:30 AM ]
As I stare outside my window watching rain mixed with snow flakes and an occasional sleet pellet hitting my windowsill, I am feeling overwhelming joy.   Apprehended by the thought of single women sitting alone or pretending to be happy with their girlfriends on Valentine Day, I started talking with my single friends about what would make them smile.  They talked of being remembered, of not feeling excluded, of being celebrated and yes, that wonderful element of surprise when there is a knock on the door or you go to the lobby and find an insanely beautiful bouquet of flowers.  You see, folks think Valentine Day is for lovers.  Not so. It is to make someone else feel like they matter.  

I have been married or "boo'ed up" as my friends say.  But when your significant other doesn't notice the sadness in your eyes from their thrown together efforts, it makes your stomach knot and a lump come in your throat that makes it hard to feel gratitude.  For many wives who know or sense their husband is gay or their boyfriend is distracted by his incessant texting, Valentine Day is not a day of joy.  

But you know what? We can do something about that.  

We women don't have to wait for someone else to celebrate us.  That's why I created Celebrate A Single Sweetheart.  Though now happily married, I remember trying not to burst into tears or trying not to be envious of the women who gushed with joy as they passed my desk with an insanely beautiful bouquet of flowers.  I tried to tell myself that it didn't matter, that I was a wonderful woman.  I tried to soothe my hurt feelings by telling myself that my husband was good to me all year long.  But it all was false.  It mattered.  Valentine Day mattered.  

And so we take matters into our own hands.  After all, we teach others how to love us!  Sisters of every hue and every marital status can decide to remember and to celebrate one another.  We can initiate deliveries to the doors or to the office.  We can send cards that let our sister friends know that we see them and they matter.  

Wanna join in?  Nominate a single woman over 30 today.  For details go to