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Ageless Beauty Without Dyeing My Hair

posted Apr 6, 2016, 2:16 PM by Suzette Vearnon   [ updated Apr 6, 2016, 2:16 PM ]
I actually Googled this title in hopes of finding sassy classy women over 50 who were sporting their salt and pepper hair.  What came up instead were celebs ranging from their 40's to 70's but not one showed a shred of graying hair.  I didn't find it deplorable, just curious.  Curious that women who tout that they refuse to botox or have objected to having their wrinkles removed when undergoing cosmetic surgery are wearing wigs or donning a hair color to mask the truth.  

So I wouldn't be hypocritical I decided to close my eyes and imagine my sheroes  Angela Bassett, Phylicia Rashad, Diahann Carroll and Alfre Woodard donning their graying strands.  As God is my witness, their stature or beauty was not compromised. In fact, I imagined their hair styled the same way.  They were just as compelling models of agelessness as before, if not more.  
I remember the stereotypes I had to overcome when I decided to stop relaxing my hair and cut it all down to a teenie weenie afro. Don Imus' disparaging remarks where he called the Rutgers womans basketball team nappy-headed hoes kept nipping at my decision.  I knew in my head it was not true.  Emotionally though, it tore away at my esteem. 

Overcoming that taught me something vital to my success as a graying women.  It's not what other people see when they look at me that matters; it's what I see.  I had to create a pathway into what was the pull of my authenticity that I could fully embrace.  

I had to lose this image of me:

To fully embrace this one:  

Likewise, I have to surround myself with a new crew.  Salt and pepper sisters that exude the confidence and agelessness of my feminine spirit.  Here are a few:

I would love to share the actual images, but I don't want any copyright infringement folks to come after  Click and enjoy!